It’s important to be aware of red-flag behavior that may indicate a relationship is not going to lead to healthy, lasting love.
In such cases, it’s better to cut your losses early, rather than invest time in a relationship that isn’t good for you or them. Trust your instincts and pay close attention to how the other person makes you feel. If you tend to feel insecure, ashamed, or undervalued, it may be time to reconsider the relationship.
Common relationship red flags:
1. The relationship is alcohol dependent. You only communicate well—laugh, talk, make love—when one or both of you are under the influence of alcohol or other substances.
2. There’s trouble making a commitment. For some people commitment is much more difficult than others. It’s harder for them to trust others or to understand the benefits of a long-term relationship because of previous experiences or an unstable home life growing up.
3. Non-verbal communication is off. Instead of wanting to connect with you, the other person’s attention is on other things like his or her phone or the TV.
4. Jealousy about outside interests. One partner doesn’t like the other spending time with friends and family members outside the relationship.
5. Controlling behaviour. There is a desire on the part of one person to control the other, stop him or her from having independent thoughts and feelings.
6. The relationship is exclusively sexual. There is no interest in the other person other than a physical interest. A meaningful and fulfilling relationship is not dependent on sex.
7. No one-on-one time. One partner only wants to be with the other as part of a group of people. If there’s no desire to spend quality time alone with you, outside of the bedroom, it can signify a greater issue.