Komuntale: Our Marriage Has Ended

Following the endless misunderstandings between Duke Christopher Thomas and Princess Ruth Komuntale of Tooro Kingdom, the charming princess has decided to end the marriage that failed to get on the right path ever since they got married.

Ruth and Christopher
Ruth and Christopher

Ruth is accusing her husband of domestic violence, over boozing and being unfaithful.

“I loved my husband and respected him and our marriage vows until the end and it saddens to announce that our marriage has ended,” said Ruth in a statement via her official Facebook page.

Here is a full statement from Princess Ruth Komuntale.

My fellow Ugandans, people of Tooro, friends, and supporters around the world;

Nimbaramukya n’okugonza n’obusinge bwa Mukama. As you well know, last year, I married Christopher Thomas, an African American young man from St. Louis, Missouri. Like all marriages, we have had our peaks and valleys that we dealt with privately. However, there are challenges we encountered that cannot be reconciled or easily forgotten.

For the person we love, we are reluctant to believe their negative traits and behaviors; love also made me blind, and unable to see the negatives. Yet, a number of issues surfaced requiring me to take a step back and reflect on those values that define us individually and as a couple. Unfortunately, through this process, I realized that Chris and I were heading in two separate paths, because of his personality, promiscuousness, and the physical and emotional domestic abuse.

For example, as you may have seen in the media, a few weeks after our wedding, things got out of hand. Chris physically abused me and continued drinking heavily, which led to more promiscuity and infidelity. While he was out one night, he called asking me to join him in a hotel with “a nice view.” I thought he probably wanted to surprise me with something nice. But on arriving at the hotel he took me to a room where a woman was standing in a towel. They were obviously together before I arrived. When I asked him why he was doing this to me, his response was that he wanted to make me feel jealous because other men wanted to dance with me when were out the previous night.

I could go on and on about how Chris physically and emotionally tormented me. I am so ashamed to mention all the things he has put me through, but it is about time everyone knows the truth. I have suffered in silence long enough, and I am tired. I tried to save my marriage numerous times and forgave all his transgressions in vain. I have also worked extremely hard to keep my private life to myself, and avoid making a public spectacle, but I have been left with no choice but to come out and tell the whole truth.

Due to the continuous abuse I have endured in my marriage, this week I told Chris we needed a break from our relationship until I could be certain I will never be physically or emotionally abused again. Chris responded by going into a rage, threatened to destroy my reputation and that of my family unless I stayed with him. He gave me an ultimatum to change my mind in five minutes or he would publically humiliate me but I refused to give in to his usual controlling tricks.

Before I knew it, he went on Facebook and posted wild and false allegations to damage my reputation and force me to do what he wants. Using his Facebook account, the ‘Princess komuntale’ page, and the ‘Batebe’ facebook page which are under his sole control and do not belong to me, he posted humiliating and painful lies for the world to see. But I refused to allow myself to get back in abusive relationship so that he could stop blackmailing me.

I loved my husband and respected him and our marriage vows until the end and it saddens to announce that our marriage has ended. I plan to move forward with my life where I am not abused every day.

I want to take this opportunity to thank all those who have stood by me in this challenging period. I am eternally grateful for your support and encouragement. I am especially humbled and heartened by my fellow women who have endured domestic abuse and have reached out to me and supported me in the last week.

This painful ordeal has taught me many important life lessons. First, that sheer one-sided love is not sufficient for a life-long relationship. Secondly, that one ought to have exceptional judgment of character before entering a life-long commitment. This comes with long-term courtship. And third, love should not hurt, abuse, or torment.

To those women who find themselves in a situation similar to mine, I urge you to take a stand against anyone who can harm you physically or emotionally. It’s not worth it. I tried it for over a year and it never works out. Remember, marriage should not be a trap, but rather a healthy relationship that supports the best interests of both; it should be based on mutual respect, it should bring happiness, it should bring two souls together for a life-long mutual commitment.

At this time, I kindly ask you for your prayers and support. I also ask the media to allow me some privacy as I embark on a healing process. I am strong and I know with God’s help I will be a better person because of this.

May God bless you, Tooro, and our country Uganda.

Sincerely,

HRH Ruth Nsemere Komuntale

52 thoughts on “Komuntale: Our Marriage Has Ended

  1. Quoting you my princess “Remember, marriage should not be a trap, but rather a healthy relationship that supports the best interests of both; it should be based on mutual respect, it should bring happiness, it should bring two souls together for a life-long mutual commitment”. This is exactly what I will give you once you accept to be in my tender loving arms. We shall talk more when we meet as I console you from this trauma. Yours truly, Rutanyarahansi.

  2. Sorry things didn’t workout well, no one will ever put this blame on you, among all he has done to you how could take you a room he had another woman!! that was so humiliating!! take heart u will get a better person especially a ugandan.

    1. Boojo Kakibi muno, Ogwo omusaija akaba Muyaye taina ngeso, a descendant of black slaves indeed. Now what about the PREGNANCY? Was it there or not? If so ogume ozaale omwaana wawe, nigo magoba olitungamu from the handsome Christopher you would definitely get a good looking baby.

      1. Dear, For jesus was even Killed!!! they abussed him also, $ remember “he is the lord of lords” plz tell Jesus for he knows the reason why?take heart,move on with jesus, DEEP PEACE BAMBI

  3. Ruth, you have my sympathy. Thomas can not do such to you in the first year of marriage. Leave him and move on. You can’t live in hell with such a devil before the actual time for hell. As a princess, you deserve even more respect. Keep to yourself and move on. Delete Thomas from your life.

    1. Ruth ,sorry for what happened but don’t loose hope,just trust jesus ,he’s every thing,people can judge you but our loving father cannot judge just come to him,draw closer,he will comfort you,may the good lord heal from that emotional divorce,sorry munange the bible says,every thing happens for the reason.God is with you ,be strong..

  4. Princess its good you have decided to move on…leave that man he doesnt respect you at all. his a selfish man he loves nobody..i wish you the best

  5. Its so sad that it had to happen like that so soon, but take heart sometime its for the better, thank God you don’t have children together as yet, i know you will get over this and get the best you hope for.

  6. You girls also! marry here n preserve our culture! they are dangerous ! now see where u r in! But nothing u can do now just kneel n pray God still has a second chance!.

  7. Finally the Tooro PR machines awakes and makes an attempt at what they call damage control.
    Boojo nooha akutwimukya muturo tweitu? Ooha? Komuntale? Abeireki kandi, chaali? Batuleke tubyaame weewe!!” Apuuli, bahnadikireyo akabaruha okate mu reedi pepa baturugeho chaali.
    Late much?
    Sorry for what the Princess has had to endure, but……wait for it………..do I hear “I TOLD UUUU!!!!”
    Hope she heals quickly, gets past it all, listens to her elders next time and does not think she knows it all.
    I hope that she finds love and happiness in her next marriage and does not go the way of auntie Bags, giving out free fruit to the men of the world.

  8. Sorry about that Princess.But in the first place, were you doing the right things in your marriage?You may blame the guy, to take you to the hotel and show you a woman, he may have wanted to show you what really women do, not starving him of sex,being a good wife that because you are a princess.Dancing with other men is not an excuse (it does not not count as you claim, it is more than this).
    Accept that you were incapable to full fill your martial obligations and tell you Auntie to help you be a better woman to another man if this has not worked out.
    And for other young girls who are looking forward to marriage, these are lessons, be ready to enter marriage and dance to its rules.You wont bring your hostel, 2 bedroomed lifestyles in it, it has rules and you have to bend to them

  9. Very sad indeed! But that is the cost of abandoning traditions without a critical mind! The elders of Tooro said :”don’t” and your Mother plus her sycophants said “do it”!

    Any way your Mother has not only ruined your life but the entire Kingdom set up. The only consolation is that the King is beginning to painful assert himself.

  10. I feel like I am reading a Toto Magazine-children just!
    Madam Princess do you want us to cry for you, counsel you, what exactly do you want from us for you to start ranting about your private issues in the media.
    Grow up and be a woman of substance. What happened (if true) is regrettable but such a letter does not solve even the slightest bit of the problem.

    1. Greetings, Turakira. Perhaps her “purpose” for writing the letter was not so much to solve the problem, as you indicate. Perhaps she wants to garner compassion, help raise awareness about his beastliness specifically and the beastliness of men in relationships more generally. Perhaps she simply needs a shoulder to cry on, if you will, in her time of great trial. Compassion is a form of understanding and support. By expressing it here, perhaps she feels as though she is receiving understanding and support, which is certainly a great aid to her. These are just matters one might want to consider. Love & Harmony, brutha. 🙂

  11. If anybody has a memory, then you can remember this: On the day the wedding pics and article was posted on this page, my response was: THE BIGGEST MISTAKE EVER”

  12. Hello Princess, Sorry about this bad experience. Many things have been said about you but I implore you to remain strong; deep down in my heart, I know you are a woman of value. I have read your letter and I know, you are telling the truth. And to those of you who are busy judging her, please stop it because you don’t know the options she had to choose from before finally choosing this. And ofcourse you can never know how hard and tiresome a journey is before you actually walk it yourself. In this era where people live in a free world, no one should comprise another person’s right to be happy. If Princess was looking for happiness, and she instead found misery, why in the world should she stay with him??? Wama Princess, may our loving Jesus heal you from within. He has the most comfortable shoulder to lean on. Just fall into His hands he will take you through this storm. You will shine again.

  13. You are still young and extremely beautiful and luckily you donot have childern yet, most women are tied down in unhappy marriages because of children. The time you have spent with him is short therefore the wound is not very deep, it will heal faster, my dear above all you need to be happy, donot care about the press and the on lookers, non of them will carry your cross for you. You and only YOU is master of your life, take a bow …..

    Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
    ― Steve Maraboli

  14. Sad but the relationship sounds so cheap than it looked when they wedded a year or so ago that it’s all been revealed via Facebook that is what makes it so so cheap and ordinary but who said marriage was easy and just a vocation? It takes two, patience,hard work and time to make it work-blame yourself too not just Thomas. Remember your vows, mubulungi ne mububi.

  15. TRIP DOWN MEMORY LANE:THE SPIRITUALLY DISCERNING WARNED KOMUNTALE!

    AROUND THIS MONTH/TIME IN 2012, I POSTED THE COMMENT BELOW IN NEW VISION WHEN IT WAS ANNOUNCED THAT KOMUNTALE WANTED TO MARRY A BLACK AMERICAN!

    “This is not only unbelievable, but ridiculous! Has Princess Komuntale ever lived in America for a reasonable period, and seen the culture of the so-called African Americans? I am sure she is deceived by Hollywood images on TV and film, but she must be warned NOT to make the mistake of her life. It is an open secret that African American men have no values whatsoever, and they are very, very promiscuous.”

    I ALSO ADDED OTHER POSTS ASKING THE “COUPLE” TO COME TO JESUS CHRIST AND BE BORN AGAIN IN THE SPIRIT FOR THEIR MARRIAGE TO WORK.

    AND AS WAS TO BE EXPECTED OF CYNICS AND UNBELIEVERS, THEY ALL LASHED AT MY DISCERNMENT AS “BAD NEWS”, BUT DO YOU SEE THE POINT NOW?

    WHAT DID CHRISTOPHER THOMAS DO? Womanize, drink heavily, beat Komuntale, and be disrespectul to the extent of calling her a “whore”!

    Now our dear Princess, let this be a very serious learning experience for you, so you grow and flourish in your purpose for which God made you.

    1. Do not ever make decisions based on your emotions, but on thorough logic, observation, patience, moral values, and most importantly on the love that God wants.

    2. In future, run away from Black American men who propose marriage to you, lady, be assured that they have no moral values to hold a marriage. You know this already.

    3. Do not allow any man to abuse you physically, verbally, emotionally, and spiritually (giving in to fornication before marriage), as it was revealed in the media, by Thomas’ own interviews, that you were living together before marriage. unbelievers and cynics may again sneer at this, but the body was not made for fornication, because when you do, you are cheapening yourself, disobeying God, and inviting demons of sexual immorality into your marriage. How do you expect a man who loves fornication to end his terrible habit after marriage?

    1 Corinthians 6:13 Foods are for the belly, and the belly for foods; but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.

    4. Go for HIV test, to ensure your “promiscuous” husband did not infect you with viral loads from his whores.

    5. And above all, respect yourself as an African Princess. No matter what the West says about us, we are royoalty, whether living in a palace or not.

    You have chosen a better way to inform the public, by sticking to good moral values of making a civilized official statement rather than resorting to “cheap propaganda” and obscenities like Thomas did! What can you expect of uncivilized, culture-less people of his kind? I am sure you saw more when you came to live with him in America as a married couple!

    As for all the rest of you who have ears but don’t hear, it is common knowledge that Africans in America cannot and will never be a suitable match for Black Americans. It is very common for the ex-slave men to refer to their wives as “bitches” and “whores”. They don’t understand the meaning and purpose of marriage, as their main mode of operation is immoral and illegimate baby mamas, promiscuity, and drugs!

    PRINCESS RUTH, COME TO JESUS CHRIST TODAY! HE WILL GIVE YOU REST! HE WILL LOVE YOU TRULY, AS HE LOVES US ALL GOD’S CHILDREN!

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7

    4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    1. Such beastly actions against our Black women by our Black men are extremely sad and disconcerting. Yet, no matter how frequently this occurs, it by no means diminishes your personal tragedy. A transformation must occur or our race is doomed. My great teacher expressed, “I have the Cause & the Cure, but no one will listen.” The coherent and peaceful tone of this testimony is proof that you are healing or have healed from your emotional harm, if not physical harm as well. What is Wisdom? Wisdom is environmental experiences stored away in Consciousness (for the individual’s improvement in the future). So, let every experience, no matter how harsh, serve as a tool for improvement. I trust this never happens to you again.
      Love & Harmony,
      Bro. Osiris

    2. Excellently said. Hope she reads this. The others are irrelevant, seeing as they are frequently ill wishing detractors anyway.

  16. The American dream indeed. Were you not aware that Black Americans have a grudge about those who sold them into slavery? Did you not realise the great cultual divide? Why did you shun the Batooro? Or some Ugandan or East African? That is what happened to your Senga, Bagaya who thought she was so great that Ugandans were so hopeless and went for of all men Nigerians. She ended up childless. Gadaffi is dead, so are most of his sons. Come back to earth, after are you all not as good looking as your mum, dad, or brother.

  17. N Please don’t reconcile. He wont change his SPOTS. He will instead kill you. N unfortunately u will not have an opportunity to heed my advice again.

  18. Hee hee. I can see how it can be hard to keep up with the good cop-bad cop switching in my post, thus the beffudlement you express.
    But fret not, some of those for whom it was intended got it.
    You are a true mutooro, or at least behaving like one; slothful.

  19. i saw the black side of princess komuntale in the media far more before her marriage with Chris, so as she paints all the negatives on this duke, let her first clean her image. may be both parties hard a role to play in the demise of their marriage not the prince alone. otherwise marriage aint a bed of roses, they are not the first and last to have a wrecked marriage, some big marriages have even lasted for only hours

  20. Medius am called Rutanyarahansi literally meaning I don’t waste my precious water of life spilling it on ground. It goes in the right place!!!lol

  21. Alot haz bin said bt wat i can say “Back 2 ya Roots”sweetie hrt American guyz r mosters.u wil ve fun wit thm bt u wil neva gt lve out ov thm…….

  22. Am soo sorry ur going through that but plz dont focuss on some of those funny wicked comment non of those that r judging u is in ur shoes rite now bt life is full of ups n downs n every problem comes with an opportunity n for gold to be pure it has to go thru fire even if in anyway u were to blame God still loves u soo much n though the world may judge u he can never judge u in such a situation just bow down worship God for he says I alone know the plans I hv for u plans to bring u prosperity and not disaster plans to bring abt the future you hope for .Ruth this isn’t abt a black American o a Ugandan all I know is that the rite person meant for u will never make u cry it doesn’t matter weather from where afterall even Ugandan men do the same As long as u leave ull eat the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.Just dont look at Pple look up to God trust in the lord and do good always seek for his wisdom before u go in for anyother relationship ask God to guide u,seek ur happiness in the lord giveup everything that is not pleasing to God remember God wants more of ur love am positive that if you take my advise ull be a better person.

  23. Poor girl. I feel your pain, but then again how did the entire Toro clan stand by and watch as you got yourself into such a messy marriage? Somebody should have advised you before you got married to such a man. Anyway, you are still young. Word of advise, please look closer home as I believe Ugandan men are some of the best lovers in the world. But then again, take your time. There is no need to rush into something like marriage.

  24. Komuntale is now considered second hand, meaning she has lost value to whoever marries her next (egali ekozeko), I guess she wasn’t told that 1st year of marriage is the most difficult one so she has failed the test.

  25. You made the right choice princess, there are better prince charmings awaiting you, you deserve better

  26. Dear hen,
    Do you want to share the painful story behind your largely meaningless posts with us?
    Or are you one of those who find great pleasure in the misfortunes of others?
    How can you be so evil? What goes round comes around and being the superbitch she is, karma’s gonna get U eventually. Hope no one sympathises with you when your sad days are upon you.
    Shame upon you.

  27. I am a kind handsome american black & want nothing more than a black wife but its hard, while so many of our women in the States and beyond ONLY choose white and non black men. Today many of our women lie on us with the world’s help. They generalize us but are sure to never generalize any other man on the face of the planet unless it is in a positive sense. The burn of this is real. I’d love to quart her with a mind on love & marriage and family in the future.

  28. Its unfortunately that marring African-American is the cause of the violence and unfaithfulness at home.
    This is because the spirit of the Kingdom finds no where to be.

  29. Ooh sorry my dear Princes Komuntale for what ever you went through during time of Marriage and j know that you tried to console and to control him and your self like any other person but all in vane right ?but i quote and i support Musoke’s statement because in ankole there’s a say that “OWAZAKUSHWERWA ABUUZA NINGA OWAZA KUSHWERA ABUUZA”meaning that be for you get marriage you should first consult in order to avoid such inconveniences.but any way let me hope that you did it all as well right but my advise to you is to take hart and for get that marriage of such kind and in ankole there’s a say that “AKATI KUKATERA OMURISHO KATI HWEZA”. because what happened to you was a bitter lesson to you and to every body who are out there who are willing to get marriage .so you should thank God for bringing you back from that un desirable condition and fm pagan marriage when you are still alive .welcome back our dear sister welcome back our beloved princes and you should know that almighty God is planning for you a better future .may God bless you .

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